Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a Loving Relationship

Terrence Real

In conflict you drop into a younger, self-protective self and fight to win. Real teaches you to catch that, choose the relationship over your ego, and repair.

The couples therapist behind Relational Life Therapy argues that our individualistic culture wires us for 'you and me' competition, and that lasting love requires shifting to an 'us' consciousness and outgrowing the adaptive child within.