The Relationship Cure

John M. Gottman, PhD, Joan DeClaire

Connection is built from thousands of tiny moments. Every time someone reaches for your attention, you turn toward, away, or against — and the ratio predicts the relationship.

Gottman's research-based guide built around the "bid" — any attempt to connect — and how partners, family members, and friends either turn toward, turn away, or turn against each other's bids.