Reinventing Your Life

Jeffrey E. Young, Janet S. Klosko

Self-defeating patterns that started in childhood — feeling unlovable, expecting abandonment, always putting others first — can be named as "lifetraps" and deliberately rewired.

The popular introduction to schema therapy, identifying eleven "lifetraps" (early maladaptive schemas) such as abandonment, defectiveness, and subjugation, and how to recognize and change them.