Jay Shetty challenges the widely-held belief that love simply happens to you — an unpredictable feeling you either have or don't with a given person.

His argument instead:

• Sustainable, fulfilling love requires deliberately developed skills
• Communication, vulnerability, conflict resolution, self-awareness
• Learnable competencies, much like any other significant life skill

Most people receive extensive education in academic and professional skills but almost none in the skills required to build and sustain healthy romantic relationships — leaving them to navigate one of life's most significant domains through trial, error, and inherited (often unhelpful) family patterns.